Sadly, babies aren’t born with user manuals – how simple life would be if they were! Many parents (myself included) struggle with the unpredictability of babies and aim to set up a routine and structure to their day. For many babies this can be a really positive change. Babies often thrive on routine and parents can find that once a routine is established, their babies nap better, settle better and improve their night-time sleeping. Continue reading
On meeting a new baby for the first time, one of the most common questions asked to new parents is: “Are they good? Do they sleep?” My response to this question would be: “Yes, of course she is good, she’s a baby.” And: “No, of course she doesn’t sleep, she’s a baby!”
Sadly, I fear that the frequency of these questions has caused parents today to equate good parenting with babies who sleep. As a sleep consultant I am constantly faced with parents feeling insecure about their abilities. Statements such as: “I know I have broken her” and “I know it’s my fault he doesn’t sleep well” make me really sad.
We all know that feeling – when you come home from a night out or a work event and you are really shattered but your brain just won’t switch off. Most of us would find it impossible to go straight to bed and sleep. We need to unwind first, to calm our active brains. Our babies need this time too.
If I had a pound for every time a friend or a client said, “oh your children must be amazing sleepers,” I would be a very rich lady! The truth is that ALL children will go through bouts of sleep problems, and mine have been no exception. In fact, when I was in the process of completing my sleep consultancy training my second child Poppy went through a sleep regression phase that left me sleeping huddled under a blanket on her floor – something I had sworn in the past I would NEVER EVER do! Continue reading